Dating in a Cafè

Quality time is one of my love language. I love talking, listening, and do creative things with people I dearly care. Cafè is one of my favorite spot catching up with my friends. Why? Here are my few of the many reasons.

1. Cafè has a good ambiance (well, most of them).
2. They play classic jazz music or if not the latest good-to-ears songs.
3. Free wifi.
4. Light meals and drinks.
5. Employees are very approachable.

I’m not saying every Cafe has the same criteria but most of the time its the first place in the minds of particular people: business people, students, singles, couples, children, family or even the old people. Why? Maybe because of same reason I mentioned above. Not only the good quality of the food but also it provides good environment. Even it takes you a long time of stay , employees will assist and accommodate your needs.

Good place to have a date also. Because of the environment, if your not fond of walking (which I also love) you can stay with each other even talking with nonsense topics repeatedly. But of course in a cafè, it only gives us a temporary relaxing solitude moment. Whenever we feel like things get out of control at work or home, you go to a place where you wanted to relax and vent all the strained thoughts of dirt and anger. So that’s it. Oh by the way, Starbucks is still one of my favorite hangout place of dating people close to my heart. 🙂

My day with my future hubby

These inspired me from my different favorite movies.

Every time he wake up I will put a post-it on his slippers written “Good morning, Love!”

I will put another one in the mirror written “You are handsome even in your morning breath!”

And as he sits in our dinning room, another post-it written on a mug of coffee “I love you!”

Fix his neck tie and kiss him so he will be reminded of my unconditional love.

(It Take a Man and a Woman)

I will cook for him in a unique ways that will help him remind of me.

I will prepare a lunch box for him when he goes to work.

I will bake cupcakes with his favorite flavors and design it with his own flavors.

I will support him with every decision he has to make as long as it will benefit him.

I will tell him what I feel with complete honesty and courage.

(Starting Over Again)

Dance with him even with old people in a restaurant,

Spent time with him under our roof just gazing the stars,

Sing our favorite song,

Have a date with him, prepare something special for him…

(A Walk to Remember)

Go climb the mountain with him,

run along the high way streets,

get carried by him along the hills,

Sit beside him at the front seat in our very own Chevrolet car,

(Twilight)

Have a long conversation with sense of humour with him,

Feed ducks while riding a boat,

Wear my best dress in our special day,

Paint while waiting for him to wake up,

(The Notebook)

A day with my future spouse will never be boring if these inspiration will be applied. 🙂

How I keep my feelings secretly?

I won’t deny that I like someone. He got my “kiliti” even at first I badly hate him. Though he doesn’t know because this kind of feeling is just an appreciation of his gentleman, caring and humorous characteristics. So you might be curious how I keep it so pure and light secretly?

There are at least 5 reasons why I keep it so light and secret…

1. I have no reason to show it at all.
– My admiration is just temporary, it may boost for a moment or none at all.

2. I’m a lady and its a risk if I show it how much I admire him.
– Ladies don’t tell their feelings unless a man stated his own feelings for her.

3. Its just a crush, not a big deal
– a crush. A token of appreciation for someone who can make you smile.

4. I get “kilig” inside my room.
– I share my feelings through writing and reminisces the time spent with him.

5. I don’t share it to someone even to my closest friend.
– Even your closest friends can ruin the natural companionship with the guy by teasing you. So I’d rather not share it to anyone.

That’s it! 5 reasons…. 🙂

So you might also ask me what are my major turn on for a guy…

1. First, this might sound religous thing but this is just for me… Its a major turn on if the man I like has a relationship with God not merely attending church service but gets an intimate conversation with Abba.

2. More than that he should have sense of humour by not bashing me. He still knows how to be gentle and careful with his words.

3. He knows how to lead. He’s a leader. One who can keep kids quiet and listen to him.

4. Someone who wants to spends time. I love quality time and stories that will not bore me.

5. I love gifts, any kinds of gifts I treasure them. A generous man is one of the characteristics that can make me smile.

Some of my major turn ons for a guy!

Love me for who I am

Staying fit with someone who loves to eat is one of the most difficult challenge you could have. I have lots of friends who loves to eat and laughs at you whenever they know you’re on a diet. Friend indeed they say. As I challenge myself to stay fit starting tomorrow, I still want to stick to my convictions and perceptions in life. “Love yourself” is one of the common sayings and facts in order to stay fit. I love myself that comes to the point of bulging into any kind of food as long as it seems delicious. And the no guilt-free experience starts to creep in to regrets that should’ve been exercise rather than calorie gained experience. I love myself that I don’t want to feel and encounter those kinds of calories gained experiences.

As I continue to observe men, I would totally agree that they are indeed visual. They like model-like body features. Even as a lady, I admire those models that stays fit and fabulously lean. But what I just can’t accept coming from a man is that he would not like me for being ME. You see, my body structure is some like heavy bottom, curvy yet still beautiful (Confident!!). Hearing those compliments and comments from men rings my bell that says “I will not make an effort just for you to like me…. and fit in to your standard! Love me for who I am”. Those were the words that encourages me to focus on the motive of exercising – loving myself. My body is not mine, and I’m not getting younger. I should take care of my body, as a gift from Above, As a steward I should know how to control my eating habits and to enjoy food as well.

Love me for who I am not by what you want to see. I don’t want to be selfish through that statement mentioned earlier but its absurd as a woman who wants to fit in to that criteria that will never make it. In the end I know that someone will love me for who I am and will not push me to do things that I don’t want to do. I believe that someone will encourage me with his gentle words of motivation, I believe that someone out there will everyday say I am beautiful no matter what is my vital statistics. I believe that more than desires actions should still follow.